We’re getting married in about 7 months ::gulp cause I feel like I haven’t done anything:: and people are at it, asking those rude questions that are none of their business really, or premature.
Literally, hours after we were engaged?
“Have you set a date?”
Why would we have set a date, we literally got done calling our parents 40 minutes ago.
“Are your parents okay with you being interracial?”
Yes. But if they weren’t, do you think I’d share it with you, a total stranger?
“Did you only date white guys before or is this the first?”
First. It’s not like I have some weird fetish.
“Can I be invited? Please?! Can I have a plus one?”
Wasn’t really planning on it. And now you’ve made it very awkward because the venue can only fit a certain amount of people.
But the one that I’ve gotten a few questions on, and the one I’m just not sure on, is the kid question. Do we want kids, and how many? And quite honestly, I can say, we have no idea, and this is the one idea that we’re completely both absolutely sure we’re on the fence about.
I grew up in a big family by today’s standards – there were four of us, and I love being able to tell folks about all my siblings, and the thought of not having a full house is sorta weird, but there are a few things that terrify me, mortally, about kids, and I’m sure I need to get past this before I even think about kids.
- Student loans. Mine are not paid off. And the thought of bringing a child into that mix is chilling.
- Money. In general, kids are spensy, and I’m obsessed with the idea of being extremely financially independent – something we’ll touch on a little later when we talk about my resolutions.
- This is about to sound awful, terrible, and selfish. And I know that, so I’m prepped to get screamed at. But I am a little concerned about my weight and what a baby might do to my body. I’ve been told that once you have a kid, that your priorities shift, and you may not be as concerned with your body. But I sort of like to run. I like to work out. I like my abs and my arms, and I’m worried about how hard it will be to maintain that once I have a kid, or two, or four, like my mom did.
- I mean, Kara Goucher (pictured above) returned to her sexy Olympiad self within a year, but she runs literally like 100 miles a week. Like. How can I even compete? Will my exercise participants take me as seriously if I’m not in tip top?
- What if I suck at it? No backsies when it comes to kids, ya know? And if I suck, I’m screwing a kid up. I can’t live with that!
But at any rate, I figure, we’ll make that decision when the time comes, but for the time being, I’m totally willing to hold your baby for a while, just to borrow, while I decide!