So, it’s wedding Wednesday, which we haven’t done in a lot of weeks, but you all will deal because I got married and bought a house in the span of the last 30 days.
Helene blogged an excellent post about if she had to plan her wedding again. Yesterday is our one-month anniversary, and quite honestly, I’m still floating on the clouds, however, I thought the post was really interesting, and really pertinent, as it seems like every single person on my Facebook feed is engaged – so here it is…
First off, this is really really hard, because I honestly feel like the day was perfect. But it was more because of the company I think. Being with my friends, being with my husband, getting pictures taken, and dancing all night left very little to want for. But as far as planning goes?
- I would have spread the planning out a little bit more. When we got engaged, I was really really overwhelmed. My grandmother died immediately following our engagement, and I really didn’t get into planning until months before the big day. Everything got done, but it made that time right before feel a little crunched in the weeks before.
- Knowing how much it costs, I would have saved a little more leading up. You think you have all the costs together. But I absolutely guarantee, future brides, you will bleed money in the month or so before your wedding. Even if your family is paying for it all, you’ll need to buy this or that at Michael’s before. You’ll forget that there are favors to be purchased, and jars to be crafted. Trust me on this one.
- I would have delegated a little bit more, sooner. My friends were absolutely incredible. One bridesmaid registered me at Target and BBB. One ran to Michael’s for chalk the morning of. My brother put together some gifts for some of the folks for me. But I wish I had realized just a little bit sooner that it is okay to ask friends for help. A lot of times, they want to help, and would gladly do whatever it is you want to. They have no stake in this. They don’t care if you want pink flowers and yellow walls with kites hanging off of them (just an example, and not at all indicative of what my gorgeous day was about). But they will do what you tell them and be happy to do it. <-to be fair to this point, I also hate to relinquish creative control to anyone, so the delegation I did was hard, but worth it 🙂
And that’s really it. My wedding was such a gorgeous celebration, I have very little to say about the day of. But leading up, there were definitely things I could have done to reduce my stress level.
What would you have done/what are you doing to streamline your wedding planning process?